Hari ini merupakan di antara hari yang meletihkan dalam hidup aku di atas muka bumi ini. Aku telah membawa isteriku yang sedang mengandung 5 bulan berjalan-jalan di One Utama dan aku ingat dia yang akan letih cepat, sangkaan aku gila meleset. Dia pulak yang steady and aku pulak yang tercungap-cungap.
Sebelum ni, morning sickness dia agak teruk sampai kena sediakan plastik bag in case of emergency di tengah jalan. So, untuk lebih kurang 3 bulan sebelum ini dia tak dapatlah nak berjalan sangat. Kalau berjalan lebih sikit aje, mesti loya dan terkeluarlah isi perut. Tapi kali ini timing dia memang mengena.
Ada pulak YES (Year End Sale) sekarang, so makin ligatlah dia menerjah kedai-kedai di OU tadi. Parksons, Jusco, Padini, Esarli, kedai 5 ringgit dan macam-macam lagi kedai. Nasib baik isteriku ini bukan jenis shopping tapi lebih kepada window shopping. Tapi mungkin sangkaan aku ini meleset juga sekali lagi. Mungkin dia tgh melakukan kerja-kerja meninjau barang-barang dan merancang utk second attack nanti. Akan ku hadapi dengan tabah.
Wahai isteriku yang amat glowing sekarang, harapanku awak bawalah bertenang ya bila nak berjalan-jalan tu. Anak pertama kita amat di nanti. Tidaklah mahu apa-apa yang tidak diingini berlaku kepada si kecil comel dan ibunya.
Bidadari Exotic Beadworks are beautiful crafted handmade woman's jewelery and accessories created and designed by Reena. Reena is a friend of mine and is married to Nasron, a collegue at Tune Talk..che che cheng (Tune Talk's tag sound). They have a son together name Wildaan.
A couple of items that are the creation of Reena:
You can find more of Reena's creations by visiting
The past two weeks must have been like hell on earth for the most famous golfer on the planet. The news that Tiger Woods,33 crashed his SUV into a fire hydrant and a tree at 2:25 am in front of his multi-million Isleworth, Florida home broke like wildfire across the world. It was alleged that he had a fight with his Swedish wife, Elin Nordegren, 29 about Tiger having an affair.
He was charged and fined $164 by the authorities for careless driving. That amount is spare change to him. Even the SUV that he wrecked would be just one of the number cars he have. But the real damage was to his reputation and most importantly his marriage.
For the past 15 years, Tiger has always say little to the press and let his golf do the talking for him. Tiger would always try to keep his personal life out of the eyes and ears of the public that put him in high esteem. People will be in awe of his presence for his elegance, precision and smart. But no more. Now his reputation as a "good guy" is forever ripped to shreds. Now he looks sloppy, dirty and dumb.
Last Friday, Tiger made a statement on his official website www.tigerwoods.com that read, " I am deeply aware of the disappointment and hurt that my infidelity has caused to so many people, most of all my wife and children". He goes to add on, " After much soul searching, I have decided to take an indefinite break from professional golf. I need to focus my attention to being a better husband, father and person". I personally think this is the smartest decision that he ever made on or off the golf course.
It has emerged since then that Tiger have been having several extra-marital affairs. All the "birdies" that he have put in have come out and told their stories. Text messages, videos and short stories are being told by there money grabbing girls that don't realized that the happiness of a young family is in danger. Greed is the main order of the day for these slutty girls.
Rachel Uchitel, first uncovered birdie
Tiger's decision to take an indefinite break would be a huge loss to the game of golf but when push comes to shove, the happiness of his two young children, Sam Woods and Charlie Woods, and also Elin's are the most important. Tiger has made money from the game and I personally think that he has loss the love for the game. He will need all the focus that won him all those major, trophies, money and accolades to rebuild his reputation and importantly the trust between him and Elin.
The Woods family in better times
So, I applaud Tiger's decision to focus on what that really matters. I'll raise my glass to him for that.
Terdapat satu spesis manusia yang selalunya terdiri di kalangan kaum Hawa (selalunya kakak-kakak atau makcik-makcik yang dah berumahtangga) yang suka menyebarkan cerita-cerita atau mitos-mitos tentang alam perkahwinan yang tidak benar kepada perempuan yang nak jejak alam perkahwinan.
Di antara mitos-mitos ini ialah:
"malam pertama" @ (first night) alam perkahwinan adalah menyakitkan dan berdarah teruk bagi perempuan dan selalunya akan lebih sakit selepas itu.
kalau nak beranak biarlah hospital swasta sebab layanan hospital kerajaan (atau government) tidak lah bagus.
kalau nak anak berkulit cerah & gebu, minumlah soya banyak-banyak semasa mengandung,
pilihlah lelaki yang kaya raya & berpangkat tinggi, hidup pasti senang-lenang.
jangan biar suami atau bakal lelaki kelihatan menarik, biarlah gemuk dan hodoh sebab nanti perempuan lain terpikat. Tak nak bermadu atau di tinggalkan untuk perempuan lain.
Terdapat berberapa lagi mitos atau pemikiran fantasi golongan ini yang tak sempat saya letakkan di sini sebab saya kekadang rasa golongan ini patut di maki hamun sahaja di hadapan khalayak ramai. Mereka ini hanya ingin menjadikan perkara-perkara di atas sensasi & ingin menunjukkan mereka lebih berpengalaman tetapi yang ternyatanya mereka hanya menyukarkan permulaan hidup berumahtangga bagi wanita-wanita muda & indirectly pada suami-suami muda juga.
Di sini saya ingin memberi beberapa pernyataan balas atau counter remarks pada mitos sebaran kaum pendek akal yang saya letak di atas:
"malam pertama" atau "first night" pada awalnya sedikit pedih tetapi bukan utk selama2nya. selepas si suami dapat "masuk" dan dapat "rentak", ia satu perkara yang indah dan nikmat utk pasangan pengantin baru. Tak percaya? Tanya lah isteri saya.
senyuman menceritakan segalanya..kepuasan
hospital swasta & hospital kerajaan sama sahaja layanannya. Bezanya hospital swasta lebih mahal dan cekik darah. Saya berpengalaman di mana saya dan isteri terpaksa menunggu selama 4 jam (9.30 pagi hingga 1.30 petang) utk check up monthly kehamilan isteri saya. Lepas tu kena charge ratusan ringgit. What the fu*k??!! Hospital kerajaan mungkin lebih cepat & charge medical bill hanya separuh, maybe sesuku dari hospital swasta.
Hospital kerajaan pun bagus ..kebanyakkannya lebih bagus dari swasta
no offense to my dark skin readers, minumlah bertong-tong susu soya pun, kalau Tuhan nak bagi anak berkulit gelap, berkulit gelaplah dia.
Minum soya boleh jadikan anak berkulit cerah?? Nonesense!!!
lelaki kaya & berpangkat tinggi tak semestinya menjanjikan kebahagiaan. Di sini, yang penting ialah pegangan agama dan budi bahasa si lelaki. Status kewangan juga memang penting. Biarlah ada kerja tetap dan stabil serta berkemampuan. Itu sudah cukup.
kalau biar lelaki gemuk dan hodoh, nanti mugnkin cepat mati atau nanti si isteri sendiri tak selera utk sex. Kalau si suami berstamina dan handsome (kemas & segak), hubungan suami isteri mesti lagi best.
Itu adalah counter remarks saya pada mitos-mitos sebaran si kaum kakak-kakak dan makcik-makcik yang takde kerja lain selain dari mejadikan perkara-perkara kecil ini sensasi dan hanya ingin menjadikan hidup mereka lebih interesting padahal poyo dan hampeh.
Insaflah wahai kakak2 & makcik2. Carilah kerja lain selain dari memenuhkan kepala bakal si isteri dgn perkara2 yang tak berguna. Cuba bantu dan beri nasihat seperi hormatilah, taat & patuh pada suami yang bertanggungjawab & baik . Layanilah suami dengan baik kerana insya'Allah layanan yang sama akan di terima semula oleh si isteri.
P/S: Posting entry ini di letakkan selepas terpaksa menunggu selama 4 jam di hospital swasta dan di kenakan bill pregnancy check yang beratusan ringgit.
I had an interesting lunch meeting today with a fellow blogger who also travels and is an avid ice cream lover. She is Adrianna Tan, the owner/author for popagandhi.com, a 24 year old lass from Singapore who has been travelling independently since she was 18 years old. She holds a bachelors degree from Management University of Singapore in Political Science.
Adrianna (left) having a chat with Nasron
I initially did not want to go as I thought it was just another boring talk where the talker would be telling about her experience and giving advices on blogging and whatsoever. I still went there tor the sake of accompanying a collegue to the luncheon that was set up Tune Hotels at Shyet Li's Kopitiam in Jaya 33 PJ. Boy, was I grateful I went as the stories on her travels and experiences along the way was an eye opener and re-ignited my dream to travel at least within Asia. On top of that, I had a free lunch. Thanks to Margaret and Tune Hotels for picking up the bill.
She is currently in Malaysia with a few projects of her own. Her latest and personal favourite project is introducing a new brand of local gourmet ice-cream in Malaysia where she is currently testing the market and creating new flavours that are more connected to the local tastebuds. I would really like to see whether she can squeeze in Lychee Sourbet into her list of flavours. That would be really cool. Pun intended.
I would like to wish her all the success on her future travels and projects. Also would really love to sit down some day and exchange some ideas and stories. If that can't happen, then maybe being offered a place on the ice-cream tasting panel would be a great consolation prize ;)
The Shah Alam clan & friends gathered at Alexxis Midvalley Gardens to celebrate "November Babies Birthday". The celebrated ones were Amru, Lisa, Wafi and myself. The usual suspects were there; Shahrul + Surini, Zul + Mazlina, Amru+Siti, Fariz+Lisa, Soraya+Razlan+the girls, Wafi, Jazdee and finally me and wifey, Azhani. Special mention to Zul+Mazlina & Shahrul+Surini for organizing a great celebration. Thanks guys. Can really feel the love and feel very much appreciated.
It was our first time at Alexxis and the place is comfy and out of the way. Its situated on the 1st Floor of Midvalley Gardens, near the Robinson's department store entrance (North Tower of The Gardens). The food was excellent and service was quick. However, the order taking could do with some improvement where the servers just put the food on the table without knowing which meal is for which person. Best example was when Wafi's pizza came and without knowing, the pizza was meant for Soraya instead of Wafi. By the time Wafi wolfed down the pizza (with the help of Zul, Jazdee and myself), the mistakes was then only realised.
Wafi's Pizza (or was it Soraya's??)
Back to the celebration, I had the Sirloin Steak Grilled Sandwich and Azhani had the Nasi Kerabu Alexxis Special. Both dishes were tasty.
Grilled Sirloin Steak Sandwich
Alexxis Nasi Kerabu Fried Rice
We then exchanged birthday gifts. Shahrul gave me a Del Piero Juventus jersey. It was great and awesome as it came from Italy (that was what Shahrul said).
Shahrul+Surini's Gift
Amru+Siti gave a big bouquet of flowers as my birthday gift (go figure) which Azhani really liked (me too!)
Amru+Siti's Gift
Fariz+Lisa gave a birthday card with a sweet message in it.
Fariz+Lisa's Gift
Then came the chocolate cheese birthday cake; which is the way I like my cheese cake to be. Chocolatey. Nice.
Yummy Chocolate Cheese Cake
All in all it was a great get together and fun seeing the guys (outside the futsal court of course). Next event will be NATS Family Day at Janda Baik. Just can't wait.
Smooshy but tasty!
Thanks guys, NATS Family for the birthday song & celebration last night and special thank you to , Shahrul, Zul, Faizal & Wafi for the yummy (but not good looking) birthday cake.
Free Game Voucher from Frenzy Futsal
Thanks to Jini for getting me the FREE GAME voucher from Futsal Frenzy. Next week kita main 1 jam free..wooohhooo...
I found this incredible video through a friend's link on Facebook and was so moved by it that I cried. Its so beautiful and touching. I'll just leave you guys to enjoy it. But before that, I wanna say something to two special people in my life.
To Ibu,
I know I have given you hard times and would not be able to repay all you have done for me. I just want you to know that I love you. Love you Ibu.
To Azhani, my bride.
You will always be my bride til' Allah decides its time for us to part. I hope to have a blessed life with you and have many beautiful & god loving children with you, Insya'Allah. I love you Noor Azhani.
Pictures from this year's Hari Raya Aidilfitri. This year I am celebrating it for the first time as a huband and with my new extended family. Our theme for this year was purple.
Celebrated 1st day of Hari Raya in Bangi with my in laws. They are very loving & a tight knit unit.
Here are some pictures from my Aidilfitri celebrations for this year.
I was trying to get a few extra winks after sahur this morning but could not get 'em (due to my brain being really active this morning) & decided to get online. Then "Y! " showed a piece of music news on "Hippie song makes music industry history". Instantly, I knew that this was Jason Mraz's catchy and laid back tune "I'm Yours" from his We Sing, We Dance, We Steal Things album.
It is now officially the longest running record on the Billboard 100 Chart with 71 consecutive weeks beating "How Do I Live" by Leann Rimes which held the previous record for 69 weeks. I myself like the song and it always brings back good memories when listening to it. It holds a special place in my heart and also our family.
"I'm Yours" was the official anthem for my lil' brother's, Kimi wedding last year. Even during my wedding this year, my whole family asked "Apa lagu tema along tahun ni?" (What is your theme song gonna be Along?).
Kimi is now in London & Evereux for work related training since early June & ibu got hold of the news recently that he might not be able to celebrate Eidulfitri or Hari Raya with us. Somehow like on que, her phone rang & "I'm Yours" started playing (her ringtone for our family members). She shed a few tears while answering the call from my other lil' brother Mizi, which made Mizi cried too (he's such a softy..well we all are).
Hope Kimi can give ibu & us some good news by this week & get his scrawny annoying, lame ass jokes behind back in time for Hari Raya.
In the mean time, we will always have you close, my brother when "I'm Yours" starts playing.
Also on 21st March was our good friend's Afnan's birthday. I was his best man at his wedding. So, just wanna say to him, "macam mana ni Nan? Kalah lagi United" hehehe....
Happy Birthday bro. May Allah always bless your life with rezeki and berkat. Amin.
21 st March 2009 around 2 pm at Shah Alam Medical Centre, saw our best friends Shahrul and Surini welcoming their little princess, baby Shania Amani bt Shahrul Izham.
She was a stunner and guessing from that statement, she got her looks from her mama...alhamdulillah. But, undeniably her nose is from Shahrul. Well, you win some, you lose some...hehehe. Whatever it is, "she is gorgeous" as Amru might say.
She came out a healthy 3.16 kgs and 54 cms long.
Shahrul jokingly said that they had to do the op due to her head following Shahrul's head size...(ikut kepala papa Shahrul lah kot).
Not forgetting to mention, the clan that came by to see baby Shania for the first time. There were Suraya & Razlan (plus Nana & Yaya..both are getting more gorgeous each time we see them), Wafi, Zul & Maz (minus Zareef & Zara...get well soon baby Zara), Fatihatul, Amru, Masri & Rozilawati and last but not least Faizal & Mas.
Well, here are a couple of pictures of Shania Amani that I grabbed from our friend's camera.
Shania all cuddled up... A picture of innocence...
For better pictures, please visit Amru's blog,http://amrufm.wordpress.com/. His pictures tells more than a million words (exaggerate sikit..heheh)
Kali ini, posting saya mungkin sedikit berat dari selalunya. Ini hanya sedikit pencarian tentang apa ertinya bergelar seorang suami.
Kebelakangan ini, tanggungjawab dan erti memegang amanah ini asyik bermain di minda. Lebih2 lagi menjelang hari pernikahan. Mampukah saya? Itulah yang paling banyak di tanya pada diri sendiri.
Mungkin teman/tunang kita memperlekehkan tanggungjawab kita sebagai bakal suami, tetapi itu hanyalah suatu pendapat. Reaksi kita pada pandangan teman/tunang kita itu? Hanyalah senyum dan menerimanya sebagai gurauan. Mesti di ingati kesabaran dan bertolak ansur adalah antara elemen penting dalam mencapai kebahagiaan rumahtangga.
Akhirnya, di bawah ini sedikit research and huraian yg telah saya buat sejak bertunang pada 14 December 2008 :
Mereka yang sudi berkongsi ilmu ataupun ada komen2 yang membina, amat di hargai.
Sunnatullah dan Syariatullah
Memahami syariatullah , iaitu segala hukum hakam yang termaktub di dalam quran dan hadis. Seorang suami juga, perlu memahami sunnatullah seorang wanita (isteri), yang Allah jadikannya lain dari dirinya. Seorang wanita, sifatnya lain sifat seorang lelaki,pelengkap dirinya, maka perlu difahami akan hakikat seorang wanita yang perasaannya lebih halus dari dirinya.
*Syariatullah pada seorang suami kepada isteri :
Nafkah zahir - tempat tinggal, makan minum .
Nafkah batin - merasa selamat dibawah naungan suaminya, tempat berteduh bagi dirinya, tempat tumpuan kasih sayang , tempat kemesraan dan segala yang berkait rapat dengan perasaan. Inilah hak-hak kejiwaan yang perlu dimainkan peranan oleh seorang suami kepada isterinya.
Seorang suami perlu juga melihat dunia kekeluargaan dari sudut pandang seorang isteri. Kerana seorang wanita punyai pandangan yang berbeza dari seorang lelaki. Kombinasi pandangannya dan isteri memainkan peranan dalam menjamin keutuhan dan keharmonian keluarga.
Kombinasi antara pengetahuan tentang syariatullah dan kefahaman terhadap sunnatullah , insyaallah, akan melahirkan keluarga yang penyejuk di mata penawar di hati, bahagia di dunia cemerlang di akhirat.
Uswah Hasanah
Seorang suami merupakan suri tauladan untuk keluarganya. Segala tindak-tanduknya menjadi perhatian seisi keluarganya. Anak-anak lebih mudah meniru apa yang dibuat berbanding mendengar apa yang diucap oleh ayahnya. Seorang isteri juga lebih mudah mengikut apabila suaminya lebih perihatin terhadap dirinya juga perasaannya.
Seorang suami merupakan pemimpin bagi keluarganya. Jadikan diri contoh terbaik di dalam keluarga.
Amanah (Tanggungjawab)
Menjadi seorang suami merupakan amanah besar yang dipikul bagi seorang lelaki. Bila berjayanya akad nikah, maka seorang lelaki memikul tanggungjawab seorang wanita yang sebelumnya berada di bawah tanggungan ayahnya, kini berada di bawah tanggungannya. Didikan, agama, nafkah dan sebagainya yang ditanggung oleh seorang ayah.
Perkataan amanah ini perlulah selalu diletakkan di dalam minda bahawa bukan perkara kecil dalam membina daulah islamiyah yang terkecil dalam masyarakat,iaitu keluarga. Ilmu memainkan peranan dalam menjalankan amanah sebagai suami, dan juga amanah apabila sudah bergelar seorang ayah.
Matlamat
Seorang suami atau ayah atau lelaki, perlulah punyai matlamat kemanakah hala tuju yang ingin dibawa olehnya dalam kehidupan berkeluarga ini. Sama ada ke syurga atau ke neraka?..Mahu memberikan kemewahan dunia yang sementara dan berpoya-poya selagi nyawa masih ada? Mahu menjadikan anak-anak dan isteri sebagai perhiasan dunia semata atau sehingga ke dalam syurga? Jika mahu dibawa ke syurga, bagaimana caranya, apakah sudah ada?
Matlamat ini perlulah disematkan seboleh-boleh sebelum perkahwinan dilangsungkan , atau selepas bergelar suami. Jika sudah terlajak, masih boleh diperbetulkan matlamat ini, selagi nyawa dikandung badan.
Istiqamah
Dalam menjalankan tanggungjawab sebagai suami, sifat istiqamah atau berterusan dalam melakukan amalan sangat-sangat menjadi titik penting dalam menjaga keharmonian dan juga kesan didikan kepada isi keluarga. Jika seorang suami atau ayah, tidak istiqamah dalam perbuatannya, manakan mungkin dia akan menjadi uswah (ikutan) terbaik bagi isteri dan anak-anaknya.
Didikan seroang ayah / suami yang dalam tegasnya terselit didikan, dalam garangnya punyai asuhan dan dalam tuturnya penuh dengan kemesraan. Semuanya perlulah dalam kadar yang berterusan. Didikan kepada anak-anak dan isteri jika tiada sifat istiqamah ini, boleh runtuh sebuah instiusi keluarga.
Kesimpulan
S - Sunnatullah & Syaratullah
U - Uswah hasanah
A - Amanah
M - Matlamat
I - Istiqamah
Sama-sama kita mengambil pengajaran. Buat teman-teman yang bakal melangsungkan perkahwinan pada cuti musim panas ni, moga Allah luaskan pintu rezeki buat kalian, dan dikurniakan zuriat yang soleh lagi solehah dan sebagai pengganti risalah Islam di hari kemudian.
(Haih, tengah-tengah malam boleh fikir pasal ni….Sudah layakkah saya??…Anda pula bagaimana?..tepuk dada, tanya iman. Sama-sama muhasabah diri.Jangan difikir tentang hidup berkeluarga jika hanya mahu hidup berdua, tetapi fikirkan juga yang ketiga dan seterusnya.
Pengolahan dibuat berdasarkan kefahaman penulis terhadap isu-isu masyarakat.
Sekali lagi pasangan popular in di lihat bersama2 di satu majlis babyshower, tapi kali ini mungkin muncul keretakan pada hubungan setahun jagung ini.
Mereka pada awal nya kelihatan mesra bersama. Tetapi pada akhir majlis semakin kelihatan ketegangan di muka Qariena.
boisanerd.blogspot.com akan membawa perkembangan perhubungan ini. Ini adalah kali kedua munculnya pasangan ini setelah pertama kali muncul bersama 2 minggu yang lalu di Mont Kiara.
Babyshowers. The first thing that comes to mind is a group of moms and girlfriends getting together, exchanging stories, gossiping, having tea and crumpets (kat M'sia ada ke crumpets?) and exchanging gifts.
So, last Sunday, Shahrul had a babyshower for his expecting wife (due in 2 weeks) Surini. All the Shah Alam clan and other suspects converge at Shahrul's for this babyshower.
But I have a fishy feeling that it was just an excuse for our latest craze....CRANIUM!!! Jazdee didnt want me to team up with him for a silly reason.....because I have a blog. That's weak bro..weak.....hehehe.
When I told him that Zul also has a blog, he said "Zul punya lain, intellectual punya blog.."..then we laughed...wakakaka....
Well, boisanerd was grouped with Shahrul, Lukman, adik iya and Su. No prizes on guessing who were the champs...hehehe....
The whole babyshower affair was fun and it was a good excuse for the guys and gals to hang out, catchup and be closer aka merapatkan silaturrahim...
Last note, wishing and praying for the safe arrival of Shahrul's and Surini's princess and also for Surini's having her delivery safe and smoothly.
Mazlan & DeannaSu & Anidz Food.....nyam nyam....uurrpp Makan dulu... Jazdee baru sampai.... Kak Long & Su.... Zul, Maz, Su & Shahrul... The real reason for the babyshower...hahahaha.... Camel? Cow? Ostrich? laaaa.....peacock rupanya....apa daaa... Baby's first handphone.....she got 2 some more... The WHOLE CLAN.........say cheese everybody!!!!!!
